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  • Therapy for People-Pleasers

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    People-pleasing is an adaptive strategy we use to get our core needs met. People pleasing has a lot of good intentions behind it, but it also has some negative downsides that include:

    • Sacrificing too much of yourself and then feeling resentful after you’ve said yes
    • Becoming overly-sensitive to rejection
    • Basing your self-worth on what you do for others
    • Having a hard time finding your voice

    People-pleasers are often conflict adverse and prefer to avoid strong emotions. Perfectionism may also be present.  Cognitive behavioral therapy provides a good framework for learning healthy ways to assert your needs and wants. Positive communication skills are vital for healthy relationships that deepen over time.